It's one thing to act differently around someone because you're a decent person who wants them to feel at ease. It's quite different to approach the situation with the mindset of "I have to get these folks to accept me." In order to gain their favor, I'll transform into anything I believe they desire. That's not real friendship—it's imitation.
Real friends will accept you for who you are without trying to change you. They know you better than you think (or maybe even know you well enough), which is why they can recognize your quirks and use them to your advantage. You'll never be able to fit all your friends into a category, but it's important to realize those categories exist so we can find ways to help our friends.
So yes, it's normal to act differently around different people. The only thing that isn't normal is if you feel the need to alter your behavior in order to make everyone happy all the time. That's when you have problems that only you can fix.
If someone is being polite but faking it, you might remark that their generosity or hospitality is false and label them as disingenuous. If you find them irritating but not malicious, you could say that they are self-absorbed or arrogant. If they've done you wrong but aren't trying to hide it, you could say that they are deceitful.
These phrases are all good ways to describe someone who is pretending to be something or other: phoney, sham, fraud, quack, joker. Don't feel bad if you find them annoying. They're just doing it differently than you are.
We are kinder to strangers simply because they cannot see the true us in a short amount of time. We display our genuine colors in our families. Strangers are typically treated with less respect than our own relatives. We are meant to comprehend our loved ones' inclinations and recognize that they are not intentionally unpleasant. Therefore, there is no reason to punish family members for their behaviors.
The truth is, we all need friends and family who care about us. When someone close to you does something hurtful, it can be difficult to think clearly or act properly. But as long as they have not done anything illegal, most people will understand if you show them some love by treating them like everyone else - with kindness and respect.
As a result, we often act differently in public because of expectations and societal standards, but also because we need to break the pattern. Sometimes they do it to prove something to others and to themselves, and other times they do it because they are too cowardly or biased to voice their thoughts in public. Whatever the reason may be, it's very common for people to act differently in public.
In psychology, this is known as the "social-expectancy bias". It means that we tend to do things that ease the pain of social rejection or encourage social acceptance. For example, if you expect to be rejected when asking someone for a date, then going up to her and saying "I'm not really sure what to say, but would you like to go out some time?" seems like a good idea because it reduces the pain of being rejected. However, if you expect to be accepted, then simply walking up to her and saying "Hey, I'm John. What's your name?" is better because it increases the chances of getting asked out.
The tendency to act differently in public depends on one's expectation about how others will react. If you expect them to accept you, then acting confident and making a strong first impression is recommended. But if you expect them to reject you, then avoiding situations where you might be judged by others is helpful.
Furthermore, social norms can influence how we act in public as well.
They use this mask to shield themselves since they are unable to deal with their own personality or feelings. Sometimes the character is sickeningly false, and other times the individual is extremely cautious. Perhaps the individual struggles with trust. Perhaps the individual dislikes you (for whatever reason, not your fault). Mask wearers may include artists, actors, musicians, writers, politicians, scientists, teachers, priests, or any other type of person who interacts with the public.
There are several reasons why someone would wear a mask. It may be for personal protection, such as when an individual wears a disguise to avoid being recognized by friends or family. Disguises can also be used to cover up a crime, such as when an actor wears a mask during a crime scene investigation on a television show. A third reason may be to escape unpleasant emotions, such as when an individual wears a mask at work to hide his or her true feelings. Finally, a person might wear a mask because it's the only way he or she can get through life every day. For example, an individual may wear a mask in order to interact with people without revealing his or her true self. The list goes on and on...
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