"When the high wears off, so does the connection." It's typical to see representations of guys who are "in love with the chase" and disinterested in being wrangled by women who only want them to commit in the realm of rom-coms that rely on gender-based stereotypes. The truth is that men find excitement and pleasure in playing hard to get because it's a challenge that forces them to maintain their interest. This mindset is attractive to women because they feel like they're fighting an opponent rather than just giving in to his demands.
The chase is also fun for men because they feel like they have control over where it goes. If you push someone's buttons, they'll eventually lose interest; but if you can keep them guessing, then there's a chance that they might love you forever (or at least until something else catches their eye).
Some men even enjoy playing hard to get because it reminds them of their dominance over women. No woman can refuse your advances!
The pursuit often ends in failure because most women want a stable relationship instead of a one-night stand; but that doesn't mean that the chase isn't exciting for them too.
So next time you try to play hard to get, remember that it's not just about you - it's also about wanting to challenge and excite your partner.
Watching rom-coms may romanticize a man's "persistent pursuit" of a woman, making women more willing to tolerate stalking in real life. "[Such films] might encourage women to reject their intuition," said Julia Lippman, a University of Michigan professor, to Canada's Global News. "They could lead them to believe that a persistent suitor will eventually win through."
In addition, rom-coms are often very emotional movies that appeal to women's sense of humor. These films often feature two unlikeable characters who end up together at the climax, so they can be laughed at when they cry on each other's shoulders. Finally, rom-coms tend to focus on love stories with a happy ending, which many women find attractive because it is a contrast to society's expectations.
Here are some examples of popular rom-coms:
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004) - This film tells the story of a man who tries to erase his ex-girlfriend from his mind after she breaks up with him. He does this by remembering every detail about her and then removing everything related to her from his life.
How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days (2003) - This movie follows two strangers who meet online and fall in love over the internet. They go on a series of dates to see if they would make good partners offline too.
Women, on the other hand, don't "chase" or "pursue" men much until their interests and attention begin to fade. This brings me to option two...
The true reason a woman plays hard to get and makes men seek her is quite different. Men are competitive by nature. They have always existed. They understand that a great female attracts all the attention in the world. Every excellent guy want to date a fantastic women. Therefore, each man will try his best to win over the girl he likes.
The only thing is that some men may not be so good at it. Sometimes they might even make things harder for themselves. The reasons for this are pretty simple - most men don't know how to deal with a hard-to-get girl. They might send the wrong signals or say something stupid which makes the girl reject them even more. Some men might even use force to get what they want... This doesn't work either way - if you use force to get a girl to go out with you then you'll definitely lose respect in her eyes. Only one in ten men will actually succeed in getting a hard-to-come-by girl's number. The other nine out of ten guys will just end up wasting their time and energy for nothing.
So why do men chase girls if they're not sure if they'll like them? Two reasons: first of all, they think that if they show their interest then she might eventually give in; second, they hope that if they keep on trying then maybe they'll somehow change her mind about dating other people.
There are several reasons why a man may desire you to pursue him, and they are not necessarily the same. Sure, some men are shy, and other men, especially if they have poor self-esteem, want to be desired by a woman. Some men, on the other hand, are simply drawn to a woman who takes the initiative to express her interest. Whatever his reason may be, if a man doesn't want you to chase him, then he'll make that clear.
The first thing to understand is that a man wants you to chase him because he is looking for security and confidence in a relationship. He wants to know that you're interested even if he doesn't take the first step. Even if you don't feel ready to commit yet, a man needs to know that you're at least open to the idea.
Additionally, a man wants you to chase him because he finds your efforts attractive. It shows that you take time out of your day to think about him and what would make him happy. This proves that you're thoughtful and responsible which are two great qualities to have in a partner. Men like women who are strong willed but still feminine enough to be chased!
Finally, a man wants you to chase him because it makes him feel powerful. When a man knows that a woman is interested in him and wants to be with him, this gives him confidence.